It is Wednesday!
This week Joyce the author of the Hodgepodge as declared a Hodgepodge Spring Break!
Last week one of the questions in the Hodgepodge was regarding a toxic situation. And if you have ever had the courage to leave a toxic situation.
I say courage because it takes courage to say "No More!"
For me this took place in year 2012. I said "No More!"
What I found so interesting is that several bloggers posted something about poor friendships in a post or comment last week. It made me think back to when I had to say "No More".
For me, warning signs began to pop out.
I always felt like I had to justify my actions.
I will share one example. Trick or Treating ~ this "friend" did not believe in Halloween or Trick or Treating. I am fine with having different opinions. I have several friends who have different opinions from me. We leave it as that.
And if it is just all in fun for little ones to go around to neighbors, family and friends, dressed up as a Star Wars character, who cares.
Oh my! I will never forget the hammer that fell on me for my actions.
I started to not be me around this person. I would try to be who they wanted me to be!
There comes a time when you have to stop crossing oceans for people who won't even jump a puddle for you.
And did it help? No, it got worse! I was not me, I was trying to be someone else.
And I continued to be criticized, I continued trying to justify the things I did or did not do.
Finally, I had it! No more. And back in 2012, I walked away.
It was not easy.
I am thankful for the friends who loved me during that hard time. It was difficult because I left a circle. I could no longer be in that circle, because she was in the circle.
2016 will be going on four years since I made the decision to say "No More".
What positive things came from this decision?
I am no longer working on trying to PLEASE someone I never could.
This frees me! It frees my spirit and it frees my dreams.
I hope this post helps some of you that commented or wrote about friendships last week.
A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart, and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words.