About The River

Thursday, July 20, 2017


Wouldn't it be wonderful if I could pass all my zingers to you and then I would never behave badly and you could behave badly all the time and we'd both be happy? On the other hand, I must warn you that when you finally have the pleasure of saying the thing you mean to say at the moment you mean to say it, remorse inevitably follows. 

You've Got Mail

There is a person who helps at our community garden who seems to feel it necessary to make comments to me or give his opinion of me and my work. Or just has to say stuff. 
The problem is it is childish stuff. I am in my 40's. Why? Why say stuff like...  And is coming from a man well in his 60's.

Regarding my hair ~ "Why does Jeremy let you play with the electric outlet?" 
Regarding my boys ~ "Why are they not doing this activity or helping with this?"
Regarding my garden ~ "Growing your share of weeds."

I do not say anything back. 
I never do. I never have. 

It is making this summers time at the garden, not as fun as years past. I am one  to mind my own business. When I do visit or say something to someone, I like to try to have it be positive, even if I am trying to correct something.

I would love to say something.

Just like Kathleen Kelly in You've Got Mail.



  1. I think you are doing so wonderfully with this man! You clearly have patience and wisdom! It must be such a temptation to speak up and say something...and I know there are many things you COULD say! But you are taking the high road! Not the easy way, but definitely the right way!! Are these pictures you? You are adorable!!! How could anyone in their right mind criticize you?

  2. I can identify. I have more than one person like that in my neighborhood. I doubt there is any zinger that could ever perturb them. It is hard to NOT let them ruin my day. Sometimes I can laugh it off, and sometimes I am just not in the mood!

  3. I think you should have something ready to say back. Maybe we can help you...like Mind your own business you old coot! hahaha! But I don't usually answer back but then I think...and think...about what I coulda or shoulda said! What cute pics! Hugs!

  4. Carla, I just accidentally deleted my comment!! Darn it! Anyhow, Yes, you are the better person! I can so relate. We have lots of folks like him here where we live. In fact, a man popped into my head as soon as I started reading your post. His latest comment to me was, "you would look okay if you would do something with your hair". He makes comments like that to my husband too. Carla, is that you in the four little pictures? You are adorable!!

  5. Ok first of all Carla your hair do is adorable on you. Love it. I think you are the bigger person and this guy probably is wanting your attention so badly but does it in the wrong way. Some peeps are just jerks that way. My response to peeps like this guy is to look them straight in the eyes and say REALLY?!!! and walk away. Happy Friday and have a great weekend.

  6. You are cute as can be and your hair is an asset. I always try to think that perhaps someone like you describe has a problem that we are not aware of that makes them that way. I am sorry that it makes your gardening experience less fun.

  7. Try not to let it bother you, some people think they are funny, when they're definitely not. Your hair is lovely too. Maybe he's lonely and trying to initiate conversation, admittedly not the best way to do it. Have a lovely weekend.

  8. You are just to cute!! And photogenic :)
    I work with two guys that are very quick on the comments. The one guy, while being quick, is not rude or offensive. He lightens the mood most days.
    The other guy, while he can be nice, is more one for Zingers. His comments are not appreciated, or typically nice. He is hard to handle, and one time he sent the wrong zinger, when I had already had a long rough day. Yup, I had to get to the restroom before he saw the tears and knew he got the better of me. I only let that happen once.
    He's got his own issues, and likely doesn't know how else to communicate.
    Keep your chin up. You are too cute not to :) xo

  9. I thought this post was going to be about the junk food! ;P I had Zingers in my lunch almost everyday during elementary school.

    I'm surprised Mr. Big Fat Meany Head is still at it. Usually obnoxious people give up when they don't get the response they want.

    You are a better woman than I am....I'm ALL Julia Sugarbaker in situations like that....

  10. It is easy t say don't take it to heart, not at all easy to do. All I can see is - I like your hair, I like your boys and I very much like you. It is all of us blogger against one mean spirited man, he is not winning.

  11. Awww... sending you big hugs.

    1. You look absolutely adorable!
    2. I LOVE you've got mail.
    3. He definitely has his own issues and is probably not a very happy person. Though I'd love to ask him, "why do you have to be so nasty all the time?" I wonder if it would shut him up.

  12. I love the photo's of you.
    I love hearing about your boys.
    I love hearing about and seeing your garden.

    Perhaps the person concerned has other issues or illnesses that you may not be aware of...

    My good wishes to you and yours.

    All the best Jan

  13. Sometimes it's best to say nothing at all... sounds like he is dealing with something he needs to sort out in his own life :-) Keep on enjoying your life, he is but one small piece of your lovely life. Have a wonderful week!


  14. Oh you are good to be able to hold your tongue. I am not sure I would be able to that, especially when it comes to my kids. Of course, your way is best and classier. And as far as your hair goes, I think it's gorgeous! xoxo

  15. Sorry you have to deal with that. Thanks for sharing the video!

  16. You are definitely the better person than him and me - I think I would have to react. But then following your good example I had to stop and think why is this guy doing this? Is he lonely? Are the conversations taking place at the garden his highlight of the day? Or is he just a pest? lol

  17. There's always "one", isn't there? Taking the high road is always the best route, but it's not easy. I know from experience. You're gorgeous, my friend. Pay no attention to the jerk. :)


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